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Couchsurfing or Sexsurfing? What’s the Distinction These days?

I’ve been planning to write down this submit for weeks however my hectic schedule on the kindergarten has not let me. This weekend I made a decision to be strict with myself and discover a while to lastly sit and write what I’ve been attempting to say about my couchsurfing expertise in Europe in November/ December 2012.

Couchsurfing vs. Sexsurfing

Earlier than I begin, let me clarify what couchsurfing is for many who have by no means heard of it earlier than.

What’s Couchsurfing?

Couchsurfing has been created by Casey Fenton – an American who arrange an internet portal that gives its customers hospitality change (you may host vacationers or get hosted when touring) and social networking providers (serving to one another with journey points). The concept could be very easy and the portal is getting larger and greater every day with multiple million registered customers from greater than 70.000 cities.

It’s freed from cost and simple to arrange. You simply must fill in some private info, add some pictures and get references to look extra dependable.  You may as well get verified to point out different members you might be who you might be saying you might be.

Me and a fellow couchsurfer in Amsterdam
Me and a fellow couchsurfer in Amsterdam

Why couchsurfing?

Couchsurfing is an effective way of exploring locations on a finances with out spending some huge cash on lodging. Furthermore, you may meet superb individuals who can take care of you and present you across the metropolis. It’s a terrific various for solo vacationers to not really feel lonely or for many who are searching for new friendship and enjoyable.

On the Sofa is the story of Fleur Britten’s journey staying on the couches of strangers overseas. If you happen to’re fascinated by sofa browsing that is positively a must-read – it’ll open your eyes to what you may anticipate. You may get the e book right here.

For me, couchsurfing is an opportunity to see the locations from locals’ perspective. I typically ask my hosts to point out me areas seldom visited by vacationers, inform me some tales about their metropolis and make me really feel dwelling. This winter I used to be touring solo so it was excuse to not really feel homesick when backpacking Europe.

Me and my hosts in Wroclaw.
 Me and my hosts in Wroclaw

Is it secure?

In immediately’s world, nothing’s secure. Let’s face it. Identical applies to couchsurfing  One can argue that some customers are getting verified, you may see their pictures and references left by another couchsurfers, however you may’t be 100% certain who you might be being hosted by. It’s really easy for somebody to create a picture on-line as a kind-hearted particular person. Fortunately – it’s normally true.

My amazing Taiwanese hosts in Prague
My superb Taiwanese hosts in Prague

Couchsurfing vs. Sexsurfing

It’s getting increasingly in style that women choose up boys as their hosts and vice versa. Why? For some, it’s simply somebody who appears good, however for others, there are extra probabilities to have “no strings hooked up” free intercourse. I’ve heard of it earlier than however by no means thought it may need been a real assertion. Because it seems, it’s. What’s even worse, it sounds so apparent to some folks. Let me clarify that on my instance with out mentioning any names. In complete, I used to be hosted by 5 guys and three women throughout my entire European backpacking. I used to be requested to have intercourse twice and a pair of folks have been saying they have been hoping to have intercourse earlier than I had arrived and just one particular person didn’t point out something about that.

My host and fellow couchsurfers in Amsterdam
My host and fellow couchsurfers in Amsterdam

I used to be shocked after I discovered that some guys settle for couchsurfing requests principally from Slavic women considering they’re simple to have intercourse with. I used to be much more stunned after I discovered that loads of women are searching for one night time stand as part of their unforgettable couchsurfing expertise.

I’d sound like a 80-year-old granny proper now, however I overtly say NO to that. For me touring is about seeing new locations and never about having intercourse with random guys.

My hosts in Brussels
My hosts in Brussels

I typically felt uncomfortable with my hosts saying “The door to my bed room is open all night time”! When it occurred as soon as I used to be laughing and taking it as a joke, nevertheless it occurred greater than as soon as. For me it’s merely inappropriate. I is likely to be old style however for me it takes a while to speak in confidence to somebody and gaining my belief just isn’t that simple. I have to be in love or at the least really feel a powerful reference to the particular person I’m going to sleep with.

Me and my host in Berlin
Me and my host in Berlin

The primary time I got here throughout Sexsurfing was in Siem Reap, Cambodia. I’ve heard some tales from native boys who hosted women from all around the globe they usually slept with greater than 3/4 of them. The blokes have been stunned of how simple it was to do this. I keep in mind one man saying “White women are really easy and scorching!” I assumed they have been joking however because it seems women are sometimes extra pushy than guys in the case of intercourse.

Cooking some Vietnamese food with my host in Brussels.
Cooking some Vietnamese meals with my host in Brussels

The primary motive for me for selecting male hosts have been my private preferences. I favor to hang around with guys to be sincere as a result of they usually are funnier, they don’t argue over silly stuff and I typically study so much from them particularly in the case of travels. I’m not into purchasing and gossiping that a lot so didn’t take feminine hosts into consideration. It was my mistake. Because it turned out, I had an exquisite time with my Taiwanese women in Prague and we nonetheless be in contact, whereas a few of my male hosts don’t even reply to my messages on Fb (after I turned them down).

What shocks me probably the most just isn’t the truth that a couchsurfer and a number would possibly find yourself in a mattress collectively, however the reality folks use this portal to hunt women without spending a dime intercourse and vice versa. I’m now considering of what number of women could not have a powerful character to refuse…

Getting a resort room or hostel mattress could possibly be a greater choice in the event you’re not excellent in saying no once you really feel that manner.

How about you? Do you agree? Have you ever had any Couchsurfing/Sexsurfing expertise when touring? Share your ideas in feedback.

I’m actually curious of what you would possibly suppose and thanks prematurely!

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