I’ve been an on and off nomad for a couple of decade and a half now, transferring to Taiwan once I was 21, touring solo via Asia at 26, and exploring a lot of the world alone all the way in which up till now as a 36 yr previous. The loopy factor is, over that point I went from a bona fide extrovert to an introvert, and the way in which that I journey solo has modified in consequence.
Although I’m introverted, I’m outgoing. I take pleasure in being social in addition to being alone. To me, introversion pertains to the creator of the time period, Carl Jung’s, definition. Introverts, Jung stated, flip to their very own minds to recharge, whereas extroverts hunt down different folks for his or her power wants.
These are all of the ways in which I take pleasure in touring solo now as an introvert:
1. I choose group journeys however get my very own room
Though I really like touring on my own, some journeys must be finished with a bunch until you’re paying 10x for a personal expertise, like crusing on a liveaboard dive ship or island hopping via the Galapagos.
However in every of those situations, I get my very own sleeping house.
Since I recharge alone, I really like with the ability to have my very own house to retreat to each time I need it. That made this Galapagos journey excellent, because the boat I used to be on supplied single rooms with out charging a single complement charge.
Not each tour makes it doable to have my very own house, however I all the time attempt to hunt down some solitude even on a shared journey.
2. I join day journeys so I’ll meet folks
Once I need a combine, I have a tendency to remain in solo lodging like a resort or Airbnb, however I’ll join a day journey in order that I nonetheless get some social interplay.
The hot button is that I enroll and pay for it forward of time, in order that I’ll truly go and meet different folks when the time comes. I can flip right into a hermit with some ease, so I like committing a minimum of a day earlier than!
I equally love with the ability to come again to my lodging and be alone once I wish to.
4. I go to locations with a typical curiosity
Whether or not it’s scuba diving, mountaineering, browsing, yoga, or another shared curiosity, when you go to a spot that’s identified for considered one of these items, likelihood is excellent that you’ll meet different solo vacationers who’re there for a similar function.
I really like that this has a built-in community of people that you possibly can simply meet. Even when you’re the shy kind, having a typical curiosity to bond over makes it straightforward to have conversations with folks. You’ve already received issues in widespread!
5. I choose journeys the place I’ll be alone
On the opposite facet of the coin, I typically take wilderness journeys the place I’m unlikely to run into anybody else for a lot of the time. My frequency has elevated over the previous few years, discovering mom nature an ideal companion.
Final summer time I solo camped in Lassen Volcanic Nationwide Park, spent virtually 2 weeks solo truck tenting in Utah, virtually solely in the midst of nowhere with out folks round, and I commonly enterprise out to the desert on my own to stargaze.
I’d not have loved journeys like this in my 20s once I was extroverted, as a result of I received my power from being round different folks. However now, really take pleasure in solitude. Solo journeys make it straightforward for me to recharge.
6. Seek the advice of Fb teams
Fb teams are one other nice technique to meet folks, even for a quick meet up, which is often all I need. I created one for solo feminine vacationers, the BMTM Solo Feminine Traveler Join, which many ladies have used to seek out journey companions through the years.
It may be a regional one based mostly on the place you’re going, may be for solo vacationers specifically, or every other curiosity group you may be part of. I like to recommend assembly up for a meal, a daytime exercise, or one thing related that has a hard and fast time restrict and happens in public.
Tapping into my community of buddies of buddies has additionally been an effective way to fulfill others on the street.
7. Make a 1:1 good friend
As an introvert, I’m equally completely satisfied solo or hanging out with somebody whom I get together with effectively. So long as they’re a superb journey companion, I can journey one on one with somebody for days and even weeks with out feeling energetically zapped.
There have been many individuals alongside my solo journey, from sharing a rental automobile in South Africa with Callum to splitting prices and touring with Jen in French Polynesia final fall that each labored out nice for me.
I’ve additionally met two superior girls in the beginning of lengthy hikes in Nepal and Peru that I initially supposed to do alone, however was completely satisfied to share. Ending the journey with a mountaineering buddy, when it’s the fitting particular person, typically makes it even higher.
I meet these folks on the street, or via a mutual good friend, and we journey collectively till it’s naturally time to half methods. Then I get my alone time once more. I really like having this feature out there.
8. Hold alone in a crowded house
Generally, visiting a park, museum, market, or another populated place alone looks like sufficient social interplay for the day. I’d strike up a dialog with somebody, or I may not. However I can nonetheless folks watch and get a way of the native tradition. Generally it’s even nicer this fashion, with out anybody else to distract me.
I nonetheless get out and do issues, however there’s no stress to make it right into a social state of affairs. I’m open minded to whoever I’d meet, however it’s OK if that doesn’t occur, too.
The perfect factor about solo journey is the potential for serendipity. I really like that I might meet somebody at any time at anywhere, however that I may take pleasure in my solitude as effectively. There’s no stress. For this introvert, it’s one of the best of each worlds.